LAST BLOG

LAST BLOG

This semester at BYUI has changed my life and I’ve learned so much about myself, the gospel, and marriage and family. The whole purpose of this blog was to help my target audience; young adults who don’t have confidence in one day starting their own families. This purpose was created without thinking about my own struggles with believing I am capable of creating a family or even wanting to start my own one day due to the home I was raised in. Through sharing what I I’ve learned in this class and thinking how I can help people in my position I slowly but surely gained confidence of eternal families. This class and the blog we used to document down what we learned to help others has helped me which was something I wasn’t going for. I started out as a young freshman undecided what career path I would work for and having a marriage and family studies major for a temporary choice because I had no knowledge or belief that family and marriage worth it for myself. Now I can proudly and confidently say that I can and will plan on raising a family with using what I learned in this course to better create healthy family relationships as someone from an abusive home.

This course also allowed me to help myself and family members with mental health issues. Every week students had preparation work that was to be done outside of the classroom, then later bring knowledge and question to discuss two times a week in class, then ponder about what was learned within a week and write in a blog to share new solid knowledge of how we can fix problems within the family. Something I’ve mentioned throughout the whole semester is that there is no point in gaining knowledge if you are unwilling to share what you know with others. My family relations class has made it possible to share tips and tricks through my blog, the blog has allowed me to help so many of my peers by teacher one another. I was raised by a single mother in a family of foster and adopted siblings, the idea of "forever families" never sat right with me. I could never wrap my head around being sealed to one or two imperfect (abusive) parents who were unable to provide the parental needs here on earth. As a teen or young adult that is faced with troubles understanding basic concepts of a healthy relationships the gospel can be confusing at times especially when discussing the topic of eternal families. My goal this semester with the blog was to shine a light on healthy family relationship for teens and young adults that come from abusive homes to see that they are capable of starting a family the right way. I am very grateful for the learning model and how it has grown my love for learning and teaching.

Lastly, I would like to bear my testimony on eternal families. One of the greatest gifts we have among many others offered by heavenly father is Eternal Marriages and Families. An eternal family is when a family is sealed in a temple here on earth to be with each-other for all time and eternity very similar to temple marriage. Parents of children must be sealed to each other to be sealed to the children. Like I mentioned earlier I grew up in a home where i wouldn't want to be sealed to the family i was born into.

I had written a class paper on my concerns regarding eternal families and i got a response from my grader she said "I really appreciate your honest answer about your family background. My mom struggled a lot growing up with an abusive father who caused a lot of problems for my mom’s mother and siblings. What she always tells to me is that “you get two families. The one you’re born into and the one you create”. The man my mother married is a wonderful father and she really did create the kind of family she never had. Families can be a difficult gospel principle to grasp, but what is beautiful is that once you do understand them you can have the joy and peace that comes with that family knowledge. I promise you that you won’t have to be “stuck with” someone you don’t want to for eternity. That wouldn’t be Heaven and God is a just God, who values our agency and won’t force us to do anything we don’t want to.".

If you never grew up in a home where there was Christlike love it isn't the end of the story... you have a second chance.

"You get two families. The one you’re born into and the one you create"